October is Miscarriage and Infant Loss Awareness month. I’ve shared the story of our miscarriage with our daughter before on this blog. Every October I am somewhat surprised by the emotion that greets me. As the expanse of social media has happened I am learning I am not alone. I am learning it is okay and normal to tell people Noah is not my first and only. He is my only living child. I still don’t understand why there is such a stigma with miscarriages and acknowledging the children that have been lost.
I want to tell you about an amazing foundation started by a friend of mine and her husband. Matt and Haley had a text book pregnancy with their first child and had no reason to expect anything different with their second pregnancy. However, their second pregnancy was anything but text book and Fletcher was born too soon.
Matt and Haley took their experience and wanted to help others going through similar situations of pregnancy and infant loss. They started the Fletcher Foundation in memory of their son. The mission of the Fletcher Foundation is to bring hope to families who are grieving after a miscarriage or stillbirth, as well as provide financial assistance to those enduring financial burdens due to the loss of a child. Our heart is to point mothers and families in a season of grief to joy and life after loss.
I get emotional every time I read their mission. After my miscarriage I didn’t know what to do, what to think, what was okay to feel or not feel. I didn’t know anyone who had had a miscarriage other then the recovery nurse who told me to do something fun and not sit at home after my D and C. I was lost and sad. To have an asset like the Fletcher Foundation to help me grieve would have been wonderful. In addition to having resources available to help you grieve, they also want to help financially if there are medical bills uncovered by insurance. We were blessed with great health insurance at the time of our loss and I am so thankful for that. I’m not sure how it would have added to the stress of the situation to know I had medical bills to pay.
I love what Matt and Haley are doing through the Fletcher Foundation for so many reasons. My main love of this is that they are providing help to a group of women and their families who are dealing with a situation that many do not understand or talk about. It makes my heart happy to think that some one out there experiencing this loss will not have to walk through it alone because of the Fletcher Foundation. One little man and his presence is going to help so many people. There is a purpose for everyone, those that live long lives, those that live just hours or minutes and those who don’t even make it to this world.
Make sure to check out The Fletcher Foundation online at: thefletcherfoundation.net or on Facebook at The Fletcher Foundation (Des Moines, Iowa). As with most foundations they are dependent on donations from people to enable them to accomplish their mission so visit their site and consider making a donation to help a family going through a really tough time.